thinking about it. It seems an impossible job and it takes a long time, but I succeeded. My 12 year old son has PDD-NOS, with an intelligence of 145+, so perhaps that has helped him.
The book "Omdenken" by Berthold Gunster, was an excellent tool. Children with autism think differently and have a different language processing, making thinking about them is so difficult. Children with autism experience problems with the pragmatic aspects of communication, because they take everything literally. An example: For the optimist the glass is half full; for the pessimist the glass is half empty and for the autist it is a glass with water that you can drink empty. In short, there was a considerable challenge waiting for me.
Often, problems, irritations or frustrations occur, so that a child with autism can finally get into the stress. Without control, a child with autism is inclined to become entangled in his own thinking, the so-called "fixed thinking". That can turn from bad to worse, because they often can not directly convert that button independently. The art of thinking around is to make the child with autism aware of "the problem" by learning to accept it. Thinking around makes a problem a fact and a fact a new possibility. At the moment that a child with autism understands that, you have already won a lot. By means of pictures and practical examples, it is already possible to get certain complicated situations under control, without a child with autism going directly into the stress.
Recent example is the snow and smoothness. A problem for many people! My son gets on his bike and says: There is no problem here, but a fact. The fact is: "It is smooth, I can make a problem of that, but that does not solve the smoothness. So I have to cycle quietly and if I leave on time, I'll be in school on time and there's no problem at all, that's a fact.”
And yes, I could learn something from this positive way of thinking myself.
The well-known statement by Johan Cruyff: "Any disadvantage has its advantage", you can also apply in the thinking. Obviously it is not easy to switch from "thinking differently" to thinking around, but experience from practice shows that for a child with autism in many cases it can act as an aid to cope with stimuli, frustrations and stress. That is not a problem, but a fact.
The book "thinking about" Berthold Gunster is definitely a must, also for the people who think otherwise.
It is advisable to apply the idea only to children with autism with average to high intelligence.