After 40 weeks of pregnancy you can finally take your baby in your arms, a moment of joy that announces a new era. Are you on a pink cloud? Or do you feel dejected or depressed after the birth of your baby and do you not like your baby to make matters worse? In that case, it may be that you suffer from one postnatal depression or maternity tears.
Please do not embarrass yourself, it is common and you can not do anything about it, it just happens to you! What is the difference between maternity tears and depression after the pregnancy?
What is postnatal depression?
If, after the birth of your child, you feel dejected, irritable, gloomy, anxious and insecure for months, you may suffer from postnatal depression. Sometimes it is also called a postpartum (= after childbirth) depression or depression after childbirth. About 10 to 20% of women who gave birth suffer from this. So you are absolutely not the only one.
Postnatal depression does not occur immediately after delivery, but usually around the fourth month after. Often that is also the time when you start working again or stop breastfeeding.
What is the difference between maternity tears and postnatal depression?
Maternal tears or baby blues are spontaneous crying, mood swings, tension, sadness, difficulty sleeping and nervousness just after giving birth. In most cases women get to do this around the 3rd or 10th day after the delivery and you feel better after a week.
This is not the case with postnatal depression. This can last for months and needs treatment. More information about maternity tears can be found here.
Causes postnatal depression?
A depression happens to you, so you never have to blame yourself! The causes often lie in various areas such as biological, psychological and social surfaces. The fact whether you have a talent for this also plays a major role. Do depressions occur in your family? Then it may be that you are sensitive to this. Other causes can be:
- Relationship problems or little support from your partner.
- Bad relationship or problems with your family.
- Financial problems.
- Make high demands on yourself as a mother.
- High unrealistic expectations of motherhood.
- Difficult pregnancy such as complications.
- Previous depression.
- Change in your hormone balance after delivery.
- Change in your body after delivery such as a deficiency of vitamin B6, B12, iron and zinc or other blood pressure or metabolism.
- Stress (for example, by your partner, the new situation or by your work).
Experience blog of a mother: I was depressed during pregnancy
Symptoms postnatal depression
There are several symptoms of postnatal depression that are important to keep an eye on. If you suspect that you are dealing with this, be honest with yourself and with others. You really can not do anything about this and it is good to acknowledge it so that you can be treated.
- Constantly tired.
- Fear of everything.
- You do not feel great love or affection for your baby and you have difficulty showing them.
- A lot of crying.
- Do not feel like anything, everything is too much and you can not really enjoy it anymore.
- Irritable, restless, insecure and angry.
- Concentration problems.
- Not or very much and unhealthy food.
- Think, react and move more slowly.
- With the thoughts, you or your baby can do something about it.
How long does a postnatal depression and treatment last?
A postnatal depression does not disappear by itself but must be treated in a real way by means of therapy and medication. Therefore, inform your doctor in good time if you suspect that you are suffering from this. The sooner you can be treated, the sooner you can heal. How long the recovery period depends on the severity of the depression.
The book by Tilda Timmers: When I got air again is a story from an expert who offers handles in the processing of the depression and confusing feelings.
Postnatal depression and work
Whether you are allowed to work is entirely up to yourself. With some, it helps to break their pattern by going to work because they come into a different environment. But others can not afford the total. Discuss with your therapist what is the best option for you and what you feel most comfortable with.
Can you prevent postnatal depression?
In principle you can not prevent it, but you can keep the chance as small as possible by: