Most children are trained during the day between 2 and 3 years old. Children between 4 and 5 years old are usually also trained at night and do not urinate in bed anymore. We talk about bedwetting if your child is 5 years or older and still can not stop the pee at night. Is this the case with your child? Read here how you can tackle bed wetting!
Causes of bedwetting
We speak of bedwetting if your child does not keep the bed dry at night and is older than 5 years. In most cases, children between the ages of 2 and 5 learn to become potty trained. This means that they become aware of the urge to urinate. They can also stop the pool because they know how to control their pelvic floor.
If your child is still in bed, the cause is often not serious and it only means that your child does not notice that he or she has to urinate at night and so just let it run. This is often because they have not learned well yet. Bedwetting is not caused by drinking too much or too much sleep.
Sometimes bed wetting is caused by:
- Your child produces more urine than average at night.
- Your child does not take the time to pee quietly and well.
- Hereditary factors play a role (you or your partner used to be bedwetting).
- Perhaps there is a urinary tract infection or constipation.
- Many emotions play with your child such as anxiety or stress.
Suddenly bedwetting again
It can happen that your child was clean and suddenly starts again with bedwetting. This is also called secondary bed wetting. In principle, the cause can not be due to the fact that your child does not feel the urge, since he or she has already learned this.
In that case, one of the other causes can therefore apply. Such as a urinary tract infection or perhaps emotional problems. Think of tensions or fears caused by problems at school (learning disability, bullying) or problems in the family (divorce, death of family member). It can happen that your child pees in bed because something exciting is going to happen such as a birthday, Sinterklaas or school trip.
If he goes to bed again, think carefully whether it might be caused by emotions. It does not always have to be the case. Try to follow the steps to make your child aware that he or she is urinating in bed again. These steps are mentioned in 'Tips against bed-wetting'.
If it does not help, you can always go to the doctor to find out the cause. Your doctor can then advise an appropriate approach. Sometimes medicines are prescribed, but this is often a temporary solution. It does not take away the cause of bedwetting.
Bedwetting alarm to help your child keep it dry at night. Together with the pants, success is guaranteed!
Tips against bed wetting
In principle, children do not need treatment for bedwetting. In the long run, they will automatically become clean. Is your child over the age of 5 and is he still in bed? First try out the following tips on bed wetting before you switch to other methods.
- Let your child pee before he or she goes to bed. Make sure you take the time for this so that he can take things easy. It is not bad if the urination does not work, it is about your child taking the time.
- Carefully explain to your child that it is not the intention that he urinates in bed and that the bed should stay dry. You can say that if your child wakes up at night, he has to think about whether he should go to the bathroom.
- Have your child peed in bed, indicate that this is a shame. There is no point in punishing your child. Also do not say that it makes no difference, because then your child will feel that it is okay and they do not have to change it.
- If the bed has remained dry, compliment your child very clearly and let your happiness turn out well.
- Let him also bear the responsibility of bedwetting by letting him help with the bed change. Of course only if your child is capable of this.
- It is not necessary to stop your child from drinking, drinking is not the cause of bedwetting.
- Do not get back to the diapers. Because of a diaper he feels less well that he pees because he does not get wet. Your child should be aware that there is a pee in bed.
- Stay consistent and persist.
Methods to tackle bed wetting
If your child is older than 5 years and is unable to tackle bed wetting with the tips mentioned above, you can apply a number of methods to help with bedwetting. Choose one method and keep this method full every evening, several weeks.
You wake up your child every night to urinate him. For example when you go to sleep yourself. If your child stays dry at night thanks to this method, you can stop after a few weeks.
Every night that your child has kept the bed dry he may stick a sticker or draw a sun on the calendar. You can make the calendar together with your child with a box every day. If your child does urinate in bed, the box remains empty. For children, this is a nice method and you also have a good view of bedwetting.
A bedwetting alarm consists of special pants that are connected to an alarm clock. As soon as the pants get wet, the alarm goes off. Then teach your child that when this alarm goes, he must immediately go to the bathroom to continue to pee there. This method works very well in 70% of children. You can already start from 5 years old.
Sometimes your child needs a little more motivation.Then you can combine the puncture method with rewarding or calendar method or with preventive awakening.
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Other treatment methods for severe form of bed wetting
Do not the mentioned tips and methods help your child? Do not fear, there are other options that you can choose to tackle bedwetting. First you can go to the doctor, who can guide and advise you. It may be that the GP refers you to a treatment center or that you are brought into contact with a toilet specialist.
During the treatments we first investigate the cause of bedwetting. Then solutions are offered. If emotional problems are the cause, then you can be referred to a therapist.
Please note that when your child is older, bedwetting may also be a cause of the emotional problems. An older child can be bullied by classmates because he or she is still in bed. Then it is also good to get help from the GP.
Let your child in any case show that it is nothing to be ashamed of. In the Netherlands, 100,000 children older than 6 years suffer from bedwetting.