A baby is wonderful and you can really enjoy that sweet little face and mini hands and feet. The only major disadvantage that such a small one brings with it is the broken nights. No matter how easy or inconvenient your baby is, you will not end up among the broken nights. The only thing you can do is to deal with it. Read here how!
Fatigue due to broken nights
The reason that many new parents suffer from sleep deprivation is because of the broken nights. Unfortunately you will not be disappointed here. A baby has only a small stomach and can not drink as much food at once. For that reason, the stomach starts to grow after 2 or 3 hours (if you are lucky 4 hours) and your baby wants to be fed again. The result is a short night and you have to get out. In the coming weeks you can say goodbye to a good night's rest from 7 to 8 hours of sleep.
Because you sleep too little night after night, you can quickly struggle with severe fatigue that can reach extreme fatigue. If you want to tackle this fatigue, then read some tips below!
Broken nights break up
A broken night is a night's sleep where you are less than 4 hours in a row in dreamland. Now, once or twice a broken night is not that bad, but when you wake up every night, it breaks up.
It has been proven that broken nights can lead to limitations in our cognitive skills, a shorter attention span and a shorter fuse. These consequences are already visible after 1 broken night, you have to check what happens to you if you have several broken nights!
So it is not at all strange that your head is a sieve and you burst into crying a little more often than usual or your mother snarls. It really comes through the broken nights.
Broken nights, when does it stop?
The big question is perhaps: when do the broken nights stop, when do you reach the light at the end of this dark tunnel? In principle, this is different for each child, but of course there are averages that can give you an answer.
- In the first 6 weeks after the birth it is really just a bit of flickering. Babies need food every 2 or 3 hours during that period, even at night. If the baby is 6 weeks old, it is possible that you can slowly take a little more sleep in a row.
- From 3 months old babies start to sleep through a bit, which means that they sleep around six hours in one piece.
- From the 6 months of age your little one will really sleep through and he or she will be in dreamland for 8 hours, and so will you. And from the moment your baby is 9 months old, it's already a party. Most babies then sleep for 12 hours in a row (for example from 7 pm to 7 am) so that you can not only sleep well, but also have the evening together again.
Note: these are averages, it may be that your baby is already asleep or that your baby only sleeps later. Never be fooled by others who do not understand that you still have to go out at night. Every child is different. Read tips for promoting sleep.
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8 Tips for dealing with broken nights
Broken nights are heavy, that is a fact. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to deal with the broken nights. Good luck! And if you have another tip: let me know!
Sleep when your baby also sleeps
A common tip is to go to sleep if your baby is asleep too. Only then can you get some extra hours of sleep, because when that little one is awake, you are awake as well. Household tasks can also be performed when your baby is awake.
Do an afternoon nap
Do you have too much to do to go to sleep every time your baby is in dreamland? Then take at least the afternoon nap! That's how I did it the first few weeks.
Go to bed super early
In the first months I was always in bed at 21:00. That way I had already slept for a few hours at the moment my daughter opened her eyes again.
Can not you sleep so early? Try to avoid the stimuli as much as possible, such as TV and telephone and read a book, for example. Chances are that your eyes are so close. If you have a dear partner, you can ask him if he wants to do the late diet, then you immediately have 6 hours of sleep!
Alternate each other
Who says that the mother should always do the night feeding? Fathers are also perfectly suited for this, especially in the weeks that you have to get back to work. Make clear agreements about this with each other. If you are breastfeeding, you must ensure that you flap beforehand.
If you are ready to be separated from your baby one night, it can be very helpful if you have your little one somewhere else overnight. Then you can sleep well for a night.
Grab your rest
It can happen that you, despite your fatigue, can not fall asleep. Very annoying! To get a good sleep you can: count your breathing, remove all the light and electrical devices from your room, write down what you are about to peak, after a quarter of an hour get up and walk or do a relaxation exercise (search in the app store and you'll find a whole lot!)
Take care of yourself
That you have broken nights does not necessarily mean that you also look broken. Therefore, always take good care of yourself. Try to take a shower, put on clean clothes, put on some make-up, move (for example, walk with the little ones) and eat healthy. This all helps to make yourself feel better. Remember that you can really let your baby cry for a moment to quickly push that sandwich in.That is better than denying yourself!
Remember this, perhaps the most important tip
Remember that it is about and remember that you can handle this. It is heavy, but you are going to survive it anyway. The first 6 weeks will be the most heavy and if you have passed the 3 months, it will only get easier. You can do it!