Your child is of course the nicest and sweetest, but sometimes that can change at once. When your little ukkepuk has become 1 year old small tantrums can occur. Tantrums in toddlers between 2 and 3 years are also common. This is also known as the 'toddler premiere' and is quite normal. From the age of 3 it is getting less and less, but perhaps it can decrease sooner. That depends on the way you respond as a parent to a tantrum. Read here how you can deal with tantrums of a toddler.
Why does a toddler get a tantrum?
A toddler is a child between 1 and 2 years old. During this period your child will discover more and more and he or she will also become more independent. The only problem is that at this young age your toddler can not do everything he or she wants. The result is that your child gets frustrated and gets a tantrum. The more extra your child is, the more tantrums you can expect. A small toddler is fully involved in the emotional development.
A tantrum is a way to deal with emotions of anger, anger, fatigue, disappointment and frustration. Your child experiences violent emotions at the moment of a tantrum and does not know how to deal with this. A tantrum is therefore never really the intention.
A tantrum is okay
What never helps is getting angry when your child has a tantrum, then you only reinforce it. So remember that tantrums of a toddler belong to the emotional development and that it is okay to have one. Set limits for your child, but do not give a punishment.
Dealing with tantrums of a toddler
A toddler is still too young to understand why it is getting a tantrum. It makes no sense to separate, punish or ignore your toddler when he or she has a tantrum. To set aside can be very scary for a toddler. Your child does not understand why he or she is being put apart. The only thing your child feels is that you have left him or her and that makes your child very anxious. So first try to grasp your child and put it on your lap or on the couch until the rain is over.
Tantrums in toddlers
Toddlers are children between 2 and 4 years old. When your child has this age, your child can understand more. Also, tantrums can be a cry for attention, anger or frustration, but it can also be that your toddler gets a tantrum because he does not get his way. Since you can make your child more clear at that age, a different approach is needed. Try the following anyway:
Always stay calm:
If your child has a tantrum, it is important to stay calm. Often a tantrum is an expression of anger and it is also part of the development. Your child does not always do it on purpose.
Choose one approach and stick to it:
You can choose to ignore a tantrum, name the feeling or give your child a time-out. Choose one method and always stick to it here. Even when you are in the supermarket.
Keep it simple:
Do not argue with your toddler and do not get angry. Keep it simple and clear.
Make a place where your child can be angry:
It is important for toddlers to learn to deal with their anger. To learn this, you can create a safe and familiar place where your child can 'run out' for a while. This can for example be a corner in the living room with cushions to store. Make sure that it is clear that it is not a punishment place, but a place where your child can be 'nice and angry'. After a minute you can check if your child is still angry or not. So you do not stay with your child. If you notice that your child is not yet over the rage, then you say: 'you are still angry, I will be back soon'.
Do not give your child too much attention:
Always make sure that the tantrum does not get too much attention, because then it can backfire. When your child has cooled down, it is over and you will not come back to it.
Extreme tantrums toddler
Sometimes it can happen that there is no country to go along with your child because of the tantrums. A good approach is simply to ignore. So pretend you do not see or hear anything and only give your child attention when the mood is over. Try this at home first, that's a bit easier than trying it for the first time in a full supermarket. This way you can also see if it works. It is important that you really keep it until the rain is over. This can sometimes take minutes. If you notice that this is successful, you can also try it elsewhere.
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Do you know that you will not be able to ignore your child, or do you simply find this approach too bulky? Then choose the time-out method. Please note that this is only possible with a toddler, not with a child of 1 year. In a tantrum you literally take your child out of the situation in which he or she is. You put your child apart or you take your child out of the game.
Stay calm and do not enter into discussion. By giving a time-out your child learns that when he or she does something wrong, they can not continue with what they were doing. A time-out can take 3 or 4 minutes. Briefly explain why your child gets a time-out. If your child has something broken, involve your child in cleaning up. This is how your child sees what the consequences are of destroying things.
Do you have any ideas and tips on how to deal with tantrums of a toddler or toddler? Let us know so that other mothers can try out your method.