Are you pregnant? But did you not plan this completely and actually did not want it? What now? Women who unwanted pregnancy to be faced with a very difficult choice. Are you going to keep your baby? Are you getting rid of it or are you going to give it up for adoption? Since your choice is very radical anyway, it is wise to think about it carefully. Read in this blog your options for an unintentional pregnancy.
It can happen, without you having planned or planned, you have become pregnant. That is of course a huge shock. Unwanted pregnancy is fairly common, just about 1 in 5 women have had this.
If you have found out that you are pregnant, it is very important that you talk about it. You are overwhelmed, confused, sad and perhaps angry. It is really not good if you only walk around with your feelings.
It is also very nice to discuss with others what you can do. Especially if you do not know it yourself. Are you ashamed of your unwanted pregnancy? For example because you are still young (14 years and pregnant) or because you do not have a partner? Then it can be very difficult to take the first step to seek help. Maybe you do not want your parents to know or others in your area. If you find this too exciting, talk about it with your doctor first. Your doctor can clearly indicate what the possibilities are and assist you. You can also watch forums that are specially designed for women who are unwanted pregnant.
If you unintentionally pregnant you have a number of options. It is always important to consider each option carefully. What is possible for you? Both in terms of home and money, but also emotionally. The options are:
- Keep the child and raise it yourself.
- Carrying out the pregnancy and giving the child up for adoption.
- Carrying out your pregnancy and allowing the child to grow up in a foster family for a short or longer period of time.
- End the pregnancy.
Tips for accidental pregnancy
In an unwanted pregnancy, making that incredibly difficult choice weighs heavily. The most important thing is to talk about it. Hopefully the tips below will help you make a better choice:
- Talk about it with someone you trust.
- Talk to your doctor about it. Your doctor can give you good information about the possibilities and if necessary refer you to a clinic or perhaps a care provider.
- Make an appointment with your doctor quickly, even if you do not know what you are going to do. The sooner you can consult with your doctor, the more options you have and the lighter the treatment is to end the pregnancy.
- Sometimes try to distance yourself from the situation so that your emotions do not get the upper hand. (that's very difficult)
- Put the advantages and disadvantages of each possibility at a glance.
- Also consider the consequences of your decision in the long and short term.
- Take a look at FIOM or Siriz. Here you can find a lot of information about unwanted pregnancy and you can talk to someone about it
Abort pregnancy naturally
There are countries or people who think that they can of course terminate the pregnancy. For example, through the use of certain herbs. In the Netherlands it is not customary to take this into your own hands. That is because it can be dangerous. If you want to terminate the pregnancy, you better choose the methods listed below.
Overtime treatment can be performed when you are 12 to 16 days overdue. Overtime is the time from the day on which you should have actually had a period. You can apply for an overdue treatment at an abortion clinic without the intervention of your doctor. During the treatment you will first get an ultrasound to determine if you are up to 16 days overdue. Then the cervix is anesthetized and they suck away the fertilized egg. This feels like a short, but severe cramp. The treatment is completed within a few minutes. After 3 weeks you will return to control.
Unwanted pregnant abortion pill
Another way to end the pregnancy is with an abortion pill. You can choose this pill if you are still within 8 weeks after your last menstruation. So look at your menstruation and count the weeks until now. If this is less than 8 weeks you can opt for an abortion pill.
First of all you have to inform your doctor so that you can determine your pregnancy. You should then refer your GP (after some reflection time). You will then receive medication that will drive out the fruit. If you get Misoprostol then you must insert these tablets vaginally yourself. A few hours after insertion you get cramps and blood loss. This can last for a while. Usually the fruit comes out. Your doctor will explain to you how it will proceed.
12 Weeks after the first day of your last menstruation
When you are later with your choice to remove the fruit, it can only be done with an operation. This treatment lasts 30 minutes and is done in the hospital. In the Netherlands you can have an abortion for about 22 weeks or 24 weeks of pregnancy.
Allow your child to adopt
If you are unwanted pregnant, you can also choose to have your child adopted or temporarily allowed to grow up in a foster family. If you choose this you will always receive a waiting period of 3 months to make your decision after the birth of your child. In this period of 3 months your child will be housed in a foster family. If you decide in those three months that you want to raise your child yourself, you will be reunited.But you can also decide that you want to have your baby adopted and then the GP or counselor will explain to you what the steps are.
Unwanted pregnant forum
Whatever your decision is, it is always your decision. You must therefore always make the decision for yourself and not for someone else. If you are unwanted pregnant, it is always good to have a look at the website of FIOM. Here you can find a lot of information about the possibilities and about abortion. You can also talk here on a forum with fellow sufferers or with a counselor.