Education of toddlers ... How difficult can that be? Toddlers. They are sometimes sweet and sometimes annoyingly annoying. His complete dependence makes way for an inquiring and inquisitive mind. Your toddler can exhaust you properly and how do you deal with this?
Many forms of shyness arise from the fear of new experiences, hesitation to participate in social activities, not want to talk to strangers and have trouble making friendships.
In case of a shy child, do not want to exert criticism or coercion. Getting angry has a negative effect because it can make your toddler insecure. You can better prepare your toddler for certain situations that he finds difficult.
Natural and healthy
Many toddlers are very shy towards unknown adults but sometimes also with familiar adults in an unexpected situation. Shy behavior is very natural and healthy. Some restraint at the beginning of a meeting is fine and only indicates that your toddler understands the difference between known and unknown. Most toddlers automatically step back over their fear when they have time to get used to.
You can initially stay close to your toddler to give him a piece of safety and slowly increase the distance a bit.
Help your toddler with his embarrassment
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Give a good example yourself so that your toddler can see how he can best respond in a given situation.
First stay close to your toddler and do certain things together if your toddler finds something difficult.
Praise your toddler if he does something that he found scary for that.
Prepare your toddler for what he can expect or what you are going to do.
Read booklets about embarrassment.
Take your toddler seriously, that's a real reassurance for him.
Education - Values and standards
Values express what moves people and what they find very important in life. Think of loyalty, respect, justice, etc. Standards are the rules that you make on the basis of your values.
Of course you also want to give your toddler values. This can be in various areas such as: being helpful, not swearing, social, good for people, animals and the environment. Try to set a good example to your toddler and offer your excuse or admit a mistake if you have done something wrong yourself. Show him that it is important to admit mistakes.
A toddler will not easily feel unloved if he is given limits, it works the other way around. Children need borders, one more than the other. Growing up in a family where there are limits and rules, not only ensures that your toddler feels safe and loved, he also prefers.
Your toddler only learns the difference between good and bad if you explain it clearly. A spoiled child can behave selfishly. He is used to the pre-stretching position and protection. A playgroup can be good for him. Here he will have to learn to share the toys and attention.
Getting aroused is not a fun feeling, your toddler gets out of himself and then feels uncomfortable and maybe even guilty. Toddlers often have tantrums to express their frustrations because they can not or do not get something.
His language ability is too limited to express himself clearly. In a tantrum, a toddler often throws himself on the floor, shouts and kicks.
A tantrum may be the result of:
Too many incentives, too many choices
Indicate needs / feelings
Hungry or tired
(Too) little control over emotions and / or about his life
Try to stay calm yourself. Attention (also negative) will only prolong the attack. At home you can put him outside the room, but please mention that you still love him very much, but that you can not accept this behavior. Never lock him in a room, he can not come back to say that he is sorry.
Tantrums are part of a toddler's life and start at some of the toddlers at the end of the first year and at most somewhere in the second year until after the fourth year. In fact, they react with their temper tantrums exactly as it is with their age.
How do you prevent a tantrum from your toddler?
Prevention is better than cure and that certainly applies to a tantrum of your toddler. No one does anything with this, certainly not your toddler.
If you see that your toddler is getting tired, do something quiet with him (read aloud, puzzling, et cetera)
Prepare your toddler for what is going to happen, so that he will not be faced with unexpected surprises that can confuse him.
Do not go in his showers, but keep calm yourself.
Take the time, do not try to rush.
Sometimes let him choose something himself.
Try to name / understand why your toddler is so angry and explain to him why something is or is not possible.
Your toddler thinks it is annoying to be separated from his parents. You can alleviate his suffering by preparing him well for what is to come.
Say goodbye and take the time for him in advance.
Come back to the agreed time.
Think of a special farewell ritual.
Tell him well in advance that you are leaving and tell him who will suit him.
Ask the babysitter to be present about half an hour before your departure.
As a parent, you can give the best honest answer, even on difficult questions in (for example) areas of sex or drugs. If you do not do it, then your toddler can start to show avoidance behavior. When you answer honestly to a question, you stimulate self-confidence and honesty in your toddler. In addition, you give your toddler the space to think, to make decisions and to act responsibly.
Take his questions seriously and try to give as honest an answer as possible.
Think about the purpose of his question to come to the correct answer.
Dare to admit if you do not know something.
Sometimes you do not have to tell the whole truth, but you have to take into account how much your toddler can understand.
Dirty words ...
Small children think it's fantastic to say dirty words. At a certain moment the 'poo and pee' flies around your ears. This is still in the category of 'innocent' dirty words, but your child can of course also have heard a really dirty word or force term from someone else, for example on the street. Once your child realizes that this falls into the 'dirty words' category, he will not fail to let his mouth roll out regularly ...
Television is not the easy babysitter for which he is sometimes used, as it is of course quite nice to have your hands free. It is best to watch with your toddler for his programs. In this way you can ask questions and give additions and / or comments.
A toddler will learn little if he looks passively, but if you watch with him you stimulate him to look actively.