Children like to help you, by letting him help with the chores in the house, he not only learns to discover his own responsibility, but it is also fun! Young learned, old is done ... Of course with every age phase, other chores.
Why let us help in the household?
First and foremost, small children especially like it! Make use of it! They automatically reach the age that they do not like it anymore, but when they are used to it, they will continue. Young learned, old is done.
Your child learns to deal with responsibility in a playful way and it also saves the parents a little bit of work. Maybe not at the beginning, but in the end your child will be able to carry out his tasks better and better.
By carrying out his chores well, his confidence will also be stimulated. An American study has shown that children who have their own tasks during their youth can work better together later in life. When they finally reach the age to leave home, they have learned how to run a household.
From what age?
Three-year-olds and toddlers especially like to imitate you, but are still too small to do fixed jobs with a certain regularity. They also can not do that much motorically. Of course you can let these little ones help you with your chores. Just do not expect that it will really ease you in your household tasks.
From 2 to 4 years
Until about eight years old, he can help you with household chores that you yourself are at. This is how he learns playfully and it is so safe. You can also give him his own specific task from four years onwards. For example watering plants. How tough is it for your child to have his own task! He can also clean up his own toys, hang his coat neatly on a hook, dusting skirting boards, putting diapers, putting books in the closet, folding towels, emptying trash, throwing his clothes in the sink, putting his shoes away and he can help with cooking.
Helping to cook
Vegetable washing, table covering and clearing, helping with washing up (or putting in the dishwasher). That makes food even more fun for him. After all, if he has helped with it, it makes everything even better! He can remove fabrics or clothes from the washing machine and put them in the dryer together with you.
All chores are done under your supervision.
From 4 to 6 years
He can now do a few more jobs. So he can help with the dishwasher in / uitruimen (not only, but under your supervision), table / tidying up and make his bed.
Chores he can do: wipe the table and floor, clean up the toys, dry and clean the dishes, clean the kitchen table, make a simple snack, make a bed, clean up the bedroom and feed pets (under your supervision).
From 6 to 8 years
In this age phase you can give him a little more responsibility. In addition to all the aforementioned chores, he can help you cook (vegetable washing, simple carving), help with the laundry (hanging and folding), collecting garbage, mopping floor, making salad, changing toilet roll, weeding, leaf raking, peel potatoes and clean up the dishwasher.
From 8 - 9 years
He can do more and more things himself, besides the aforementioned chores can now be added: doing the laundry, fabrics, egg baking, baking cookies, letting dog out, cleaning up groceries and sweeping the sidewalk.
From 10 to 12 years
He can put the garbage outside, help with vacuuming or mopping the floor, cleaning the toilet, cleaning the bathroom, vacuuming carpets, cleaning the kitchen, simple cooking, mowing grass, picking up mail or washing the windows. Maybe he thinks it's really nice to bake a delicious cake?
From 12 years
He can now take on the responsibility of larger projects such as cleaning the fridge, washing the car, cutting the hedge, painting walls, baking bread, ironing and taking care of the younger brothers and / or sisters. He should also be able to prepare a full meal now.
To make things easy for him, you can hang up an overview of the different tasks and who is responsible for what. If your child can not yet read, you can also attach a picture of the family member concerned and a drawing of what he has to do. That's fun too.
Do not expect everything to be perfect, he has to learn everything and he will undoubtedly not do as well as you do. Keep it nice for him, do not overload him with chores and compliment him with what he has done. Explain it quietly, when something is not quite right and tell him how he can do it better. Do not take over his job if you do not like it, but help him. Be consistent and check whether the tasks have been performed. If it is too non-committal, your child will try to get out of it. Do not want to do the chores either, because of postponement.
Of course you can link a reward system to it, with some children this works very positive.
You can also create a job planner, on which you can find all the jobs that need to be done. Once a week you divide the chores with each other. Your child can then decide for himself what he prefers to do. His name then comes after his chosen chores for that week.