We hear it increasingly often the term highly sensitive. It seems like we are all becoming more and more sensitive to inner stimuli and stimuli from outside.
How we deal with these stimuli depends on whether we belong to the introvert type or extrovert type (Carl Jung).
Introvert & extrovert
Introversion is focused on the inner world, extraversion is focused on the outside world. Of course, both people are present, but one of them is stronger. So we are more introverted or extroverted and both types are very different with stimuli. This is "the nature of the beast" and if we have more insight into it, it will be easier to bridge the differences. This leads to more understanding for each other and solves many differences and conflicts.
Irritable and restless
An introvert type can not always deal with crowds and a lot of stimuli around them and then shows irritability, concentration problems and feels restless. This type of person needs rest, subdued light, soft music, regularity etc to feel good.
The extravert type needs a lot of stimuli from the outside to feel good. Noise, crowds, bright light, loud music, screams and movements actually give this type of person peace. They will become restless in silence, irritable and unable to concentrate.
Knowing this, we can of course imagine that both types of people react in the opposite way to situations. It is a world of difference and of an introverted person, to expect extrovert behavior as well as vice versa, is almost impossible. It is unnatural to expect that this is possible and causes problems that do not have to be there. If we can accept that introverts need rest and press extraverts, solutions are always available.
When we look at schools, clubs, inside families, at work ... everywhere are these different types of people. The only thing that works and brings peace is to adapt to each other by seeing the differences. Then a solution can be found that offers rest and peace for both parties.
Introvert versus extrovert
An introverted person reacts to external stimuli and becomes restless and will withdraw more often at his own place or isolate himself from the outside world. Solutions, feelings, answers, joy and pleasure often come from within and these people are often happy to be alone. Especially children of this type live in an inner dream world full of fantasy and imaginary friends. Introverts are often silent persons, of few words but many deeds. If we can accept this as parents / educators, it makes the lives of both parties much easier. However, staying alert is always important because there is still a life outside that safe place because an introvert must be able to maintain it.
Cheerful on stimuli
An extroverted person responds cheerfully to many stimuli and becomes crazy about silence and tranquility. With many inner stimuli, such as fear, insecurity, sadness, an extravert will turn on the TV, listen to music at a higher volume to break the silence. Looking for the outside world in such situations is also quite normal because extroverted people can not handle silence well. They become restless of silence and live up to a lot of stimuli from the outside. Extraverts are often busy in company and have the highest word, often with a loud voice.
Why I write this!
I often get the question "why does my child withdraw from the outside world" or why does my child react so angry and aggressive? "
Very often the origin lies in the above en how does a child / person deal with stimuli from within and from the outside world.
Imagine, you have an introverted child who has to keep standing in a world that feels threatening because it is busy and noisy. This child feels very agitated and anxious inside because it can not deal with so many stimuli.
This child closes himself off to the outside world and steps into the inner experience world where peace and quiet is. A world where nobody shouts at him and there is no crowds. Often I hear that the child is not available, a daydreamer.
An extrovert child reacts very differently because a quiet environment will make this child restless and rebellious. This child prefers noise, TV, music and clearly shows his presence. ADHD is an example of this. These children have difficulty understanding such feelings and prefer the outside world over the inner world. They too will be anxious or sad at times, but in a very different way than an introverted child.
Every person is different, but there are also similarities in behavior and how we deal with things. Recognizing introvert or extrovert behavior makes it possible to find solutions together.