You just gave birth, your beautiful baby is in your arms. The day before you were so happy and you had a smile from ear to ear all day long. You are very proud of your baby and super happy, but today ... today the tears are high and the smallest things can burst into a huge cry. Maternity tears. Babyblues. It is very normal and many young mothers suffer from it. Some forty to eighty percent. It happens to you, about three to ten days after the birth. And why? That is not really that well known, but the combination of changes in hormone management, sleep deprivation, fatigue, stress and uncertainty will certainly play an important role in this.
Symptoms maternity tears
The crying fits you and sometimes you do not even know why. You feel nervous and uncertain whether you can handle the care of your child. You sleep a bit worse and can be more irritable. Suddenly you feel a negative feeling or suddenly you are very sad. Different emotions alternate rapidly. If you recognize yourself in this, it may just be that you suffer from maternity tears or the baby blues ...
How does it arise?
A lot is not yet known about it. Some women suffer from it and others do not. However, a lot has changed for you in a short time. Suddenly there is a child that you need attention and what you and your partner are responsible for. In the beginning it may be somewhat uncomfortable which can cause stress. Not long ago you have a (heavy) birth with which you have delivered a top performance, you may sleep a little worse for all sorts of reasons (baby wakes up at night, napijn of childbirth, et cetera) and are therefore over-tired . All these factors will certainly play a role in the development of maternal tears. It is all quite a bit! It is very likely that your body will produce too little serotonin and that is precisely the substance you need to stay happy and energetic.
What can you do about the maternity tears?
Do not look for it yourself. Do not blame yourself that you feel that way. You can not do anything about it. It catches you and you can not just decide that it's over. Unfortunately it does not work that way. Give yourself time to recover. Try to take your rest and try everything that has happened - and that is quite a lot - to find a place. There is a good chance that everything will recover automatically and often it happens very quickly. After a few days you will probably feel completely good again!
Let those tears come
Tears are an outlet of deeper emotions. Why would you keep them inside? Just let those tears come, it just airs you up! And you do not have to be ashamed of anyone. Your maternity nurse makes this much more often and knows exactly how you feel and where those tears come from. Probably she comes to you for a chat. Let's walk so those tears!
Talk about it with your partner, friends or family. Talking can give relief so you can quickly feel a lot better. Do not feel guilty, why would you? You can not help it, it is just a natural physical reaction. Try to get as many moments of rest as possible, to recover from the birth and the change in your life.
Be nice to yourself
Be kind to yourself and allow your body the time to recover. Nine months your body has to live to something, with childbirth as the ultimate climax. Your body now wants to restore itself again but has to do this in a period in which everything is different for you. After all, you have a child! That your mind is out of balance for a moment is not surprising. Take the time to recharge your battery and do not expect miracles from yourself. After all, you have already taken care of the miracle, that is wonderful with you now.
Maternal tears belong to the family of postnatal depression, but then a very mild form. Maternal tears should automatically disappear again, if all goes well after a few days (a week to ten days). However, after a week or two, three still suffer from the dejection, make an appointment with your doctor. The sooner you pull on the phone with him, the better. So do not walk around with it. He can see what can be done about it. Maybe he sends you to a psychologist or he prescribes some medication that will restore the chemical imbalance in your body.