It is not the last time that women increasingly choose to start children at a later age. The reason for this will differ for everyone, but work and career often play an important role. The lack of a suitable partner can also be an important factor, just like crowds and hectic or the absence of a certain financial stability / security.
The average rises
But whatever the reasons, the average age is still rising. The average age of a first pregnancy in a woman in 2015 was 29.6 years (source). And that while women are most fertile around their 21st year.
For fathers the age is even slightly higher, namely at 32.5 years. For the higher educated women, the age has even risen to 34.
If you have a choice, it is good to know that the chance of a pregnancy decreases after 35 years. Between 35 and 38 years it even decreases by 50 percent. That is quite something. Of course, postponing the desire to have children is not always a voluntary choice. If you do not have a suitable partner, then of course it stops a bit. Then you can want so much but if you do not want to become a (consciously) single mother, then you have to comply with your destiny.
The decrease in fertility is not the only thing that you have to deal with. The chance of a miscarriage also increases again, as you get older. And once you are pregnant, you also have a greater chance of complications. Think for example of high blood pressure or pregnancy sugar.
Your child is also more likely to have abnormalities. Think for example of Down Syndrome. From the age of 35 the risk rises from 0.5 to 3 percent (at the age of 45). It is important to discuss well with each other beforehand about how you stand in this and what you would do if it were to actually affect your baby.
When you are older you also have a greater chance of getting twins. Just spontaneously, without fertility preparations being required. That is certainly something you have to take into account, because twins do not only mean double happiness but also double care.
Then why postpone?
And despite the increase in risks, women get pregnant later on. Apparently waiting for a suitable (er) moment is more important. Or is it perhaps familiar to 'medical science' that it will solve it all.
Of course, every pregnancy has risks. If you get pregnant, you might as well have problems and complications, but if you're older, that chance is just a bit bigger.
The best age
Is there such a thing? I do not think so. But perhaps physically. Physically, the age between 18 and 24 is the best age to become pregnant and you run the least chance of complications. You are also less likely to have a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy. Your body is ready for it in these years.
Whether that mentally applies to you or the living conditions in which you find yourself, is of course a completely different story. Your body is at least perfectly suited for it.
The contradiction to this story is that a woman around her 30th is often the most psychologically healthy and therefore experiences less stress from motherhood. And that is also important.
No best age
Eventually you can conclude that 'the best age' actually does not exist. Every age has advantages and disadvantages. Ultimately, the 'best age' is the age at which you and your partner are both ready for it.
Fertility of men?
Despite the fact that men remain fertile, the quality of sperm cells from the age of 45 also goes down. They become less agile and, in combination with the decrease in the quality of the sperm cells, that can give the difference between fertile and reduced fertile.
If you are over 35 and would like to become a mother (yet), discuss your wish and medical condition with your doctor, midwife or gynecologist. Ask the doctor for advice so that you can assess any medical complications and know what to expect.
Prepare well and take good account of a number of things.