What are the differences between mothers then and mothers now? Imagine: no washer and dryer, but a washtub and a clothes dryer. No microwave, but a pot of water, no internet orders, but shopping at the grocery, the bakery and the butcher, no car, but a stroller and no family with 1, 2 or 3 children, but a household with 4, 5, 6 or more koters.
Do mothers now have it easier today than they used to? Or was it life without a career, media that sketches the perfect mother in the end a lot more relaxed?
Expectant mothers now
Now you can even test when you are most fertile to increase the chances of a pregnancy, but the first pregnancy test for home use was only introduced in 1971. In the past, you often did not even know for sure that you were pregnant in the first few months. If you were sure that your growing belly was the result of a small arrival, you got information from (clean) mother, sisters, aunts, grandmothers and friends. There were no magazines about babies and pregnancies, the internet was not invented yet and there were certainly no delivery programs on TV. Also the prenatal screening as we know it today was not present. As an expectant mother you knew no sooner than on the day of delivery if you had a pair of twins richer, the baby was in a breech or that your baby had a deviation.
No ergonomic strollers, baby monitors, microwave sterilizers and sensor mat that records your baby's breathing movements in bed. The mother of that time had far fewer resources than the mother of today has at her disposal. But, the average daily arrangement of mothers in the past looked very different than today. If you used to be a mother, you often stayed at home. Until the 1950s in the last century, teachers who became pregnant, even forced to resign, because a mother belonged at home and not in front of the class. Today, many mothers are preparing to return to work after the maternity leave and are faced with the challenge of combining motherhood and a career as well as possible.
Toddlers, preschoolers and bigger grow
Where many parents now have the freedom to decide for themselves when they are trying to conceive of a second or third child, you could previously roll from one pregnancy to another. So that was lugging with a toddler on your arm and a big belly with the next shoot.
Obviously a hard time, but on the other hand having a large family also had benefits. The oldest children took over from their mother and as a child you always had someone to play with!
In this phase too, the difference in information sources between then and now is enormous. Where it can sometimes be confusing for the mothers, do you do it well enough, what will they say at the clinic, does my child get all the tests?
One thing is certain, being a mother is no longer the same as before. The families are smaller, the average age at which women become mothers has risen sharply, there are more divorced parents and 1-parent families and mothers work more outdoors. Was it almost a matter of course that little girls later became mothers, in the 21st century it is still primarily a well-considered choice that parents make. And where it used to be simply an accepted fact that in some cases you could not become a mother, medical science is nowadays far advanced in helping to become pregnant.
Was it better in the past or did the mothers hit it more? Let's just keep it that it was and is different. What has remained unchanged throughout the ages, however, is the sincere desire for children, the unbounded motherly love and the universal bond between a mother and her child. Changes in family assemblies, materialistic matters and an overdose of information have and will never be able to change that!